^run a totally stock exhaust, then add just a GOOD muffler, like a tanabe hyper. quiet and SOME performance, in our stock exhaust besides the piping the only thing thats really restrictive in N/A form is the stock muffler. The resonator nor cat is really restrictive at all, even our stock exhaust manifold has a pretty good design for being cast.
I really wish the megan racing "oe style" exhaust the black on with stainless tips, they dotn make it 2.5 inch, but they dotn come with a resonator at all, but i would add a resonator in the cats place and somewhere in the piping then add a header and your golden.
But im in the same boat as you no one makes a good quiet exhaust its all LOUD. so im staying with stock exhaust with a nice muffler.