You don't need to deck the block unless it is warped (and they don't warp that easily). I overheated the shit out of my SR (when I blew the hg) and it was flat. Just get the head resurfaced by a good machine shop (and if you do, it would be a good idea to have the valve guides and seals looked over) I replaced my guides, seals, and had a 3 angle valve job and the cost was around 250. If you need a good machine shop, lmk!
As for the gasket - Apexi is the best, Greddy is the worst. I have a Cometic and have had zero problems with it (and I'm pushing 400 these days) for about a year. ARP studs are good but read up on freshalloy.com for proper installation (ARP never made proper studs for rwd sr's so a couple should be trimmed prior to installation).